Raising the Muslims of the future

21 points on Raising childrens by the Shaykha Umm ‘Abdillaah al-Waadi’iyyah, (Hafidhaha Allah):

1. The child should be taught according to his level and understanding. Take an example of that. For example in the first stage , you teach the child about Allah by pointing with your fingers up to the sky.
2. When you give the child some food be it a peace of bread or something similar, direct him to eating it with his right hand.
3. If the foot is hot, then do not blow on it, The prophet (Salla Allahu alayhi wa sallam) prohibiting blowed into vessels. If the child sees someone applying this, then you will find him quick to enact it. Likewase are all matters, this is all confirmed, by the statement of the Prophet (Salla Allahu alayhi wa sallam): “Everyone is born upon the Fitrah, but the parents make him (i.e. the child) a Jew, Christian, or Magian.” And in Saheeh Muslim from the hadeeth of ‘Iyaad bin Hummaar that he said: The Messenger of Allah (Salla Allahu alayhi wa sallam) said: "Allah, the Exalted, said: "I created my servants Hunafaa’ (upon pure Tawheed), but the devils pre-occupied their attention.”"
4. When he child is a year and a half or there about, if the child wants to drink or eat, then teach him to say : Bismillah. Thereafer it will become a norm and the child , himself, will say: Bismillah.
5. When you find that the child is ready and can comprehend the pillars of Islam, Eemaan, and the pillar of Ihsaan, hen teach him. Do not bind teaching him to a set age because the fluency and intellect of children differ.
6.  Teaching him the legal rulings of Wudoo'.
7. When he eats from a vessel then say to him that he should eat  what is closest to him.
8. Make him accustomed to good and excellent (actions). When he reaches the age of seven, then train him to make Salaah.
9. Separating the children's beds when they reach the age of ten
   ‘Amr bin Shu’aib on his father on his grandfather that he said: The Messenger of Allaah, (Salla Allahu alayhi wa sallam) said:
    “Order your children to make the Salaah (prayer) when they reach the age of
   seven. Beat them about it when they reach the age of ten and separate their beds."
10. Train him to fast, so long as it does not weaken him, so that when he matures he will be experiences.
11. Teach your children the authentic ‘Aqeedah (creed and belief) said to him , what the Prophet (Salla Allahu alayhi wa sallam) said to ‘Abdullaah bin ‘Abbaas: " I am going to teach you some words. Be mindful of Allah, Allah will protect you. Be mindful of Allah, you will find him in front of you. If you ask , then ask Allah: If you seek aid, then seek aid in Allah. Know that if the entire Ummah were to gather in order to benefict you with something, they could not benefict you, with anything except that Allah has written it for you. And if the entire Ummah were to gather in order to harm you with something, they could no harm you with anything except Allah has written it agains you. The pen has been lifted and the pages have dried."
12. Advise your child with the admonishment that Luqmaan gave his son, He, the Exalted, said: "And (remember) when Luqmaan said to his son whilst he was advising him. Oh my son!!1 Do not commit Shirk with Allah. Surely, commiting Shirk with Allah is a great oppression..... (Luqmaan,13-19)
13. Teach him to seek permission before entering.
14. Teach him about the prohibited affairs so that he can abstain from them.
15. Explain to him the meaning of the ayaah or the hadeeth that you convey to him.
16. Fasten his heart to Allah, The Mighty, The Majestic. Some children their heart are fastened to the Dunyya (the life of this world) diplomas and degrees. This hearts are filled with delusions and it is feared that darkness may overtake them (i.e.their hearts).
17. Concern for memorizing the Quran.
18. Do not allow your children to mix with incompetent foolish children since he (i.e. your child) will take from their repugnant statements and actions and what he (i.e. your child) has learned will be destroyed.
19. Do not allow your children to remain outside at dusk since Shaytaan disperses and go out at that time and it is posible that they may harm your child.
    Imaam Bukhaaree ( Rahimahu Allah) has stated: It has been related to us by Ishaaq that Ruh informed us that he said that Ibn Juraij informed me that he said: ‘Ataa informed me that he heard Jaabir bin ‘Abdullaah
    ( Radia Allahu anhu) that he said: The Messenger of Allaah, (Salla Allahu alayhi wa sallam)
    said, “When the darkness of the night comes or at dusk, bring your children in since the Shaytaan (Satan) disperses at that time. Then after an hour passes of the night then leave them, and close your doors mentioning the name of Allaah since the Shaytaan (Satan) can not open a closed door.”
20. Sometimes, leave your child to play by himself since if he is constantly prevented from play, his intellect may become inactive and he will be stricken with boredom.
21. Encorauge your child to sit amongst the righteous, so this is the righteous mother Umm Sulaym, she brought her son, Anas, to the Prophet (Salla Allahu alayhi wa sallam) and said: " Anas is your servant, oh Messenger of Allah, so supplicate to Allah for him", so he said:
    

    “O Allaah grant him an Abundance of wealth and children and bless him therein".

SOURCE:  21 POINTS OF RAISING CHILDREN, FROM THE BOOK :

Naseehatee lin Nisaa ,
By Umm ‘Abdillaah al-Waadi’iyyah,